PDF Untrue Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women Lust and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free Wednesday Martin Books

Product details Paperback 304 pages Publisher Little, Brown Spark; Reprint edition (September 17, 2019) Language English ISBN-10 0316463639

Untrue Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women Lust and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free Wednesday Martin Books Reviews

• I recently heard about Dr. Martin’s work via Chris Ryan’s podcast, Tangentially Speaking, and immediately bought the book upon publication. I was riveted from the start, and found it hard to put down. The research that Martin describes is validating of many of my own and my friend’s experiences, some paradoxical high desire, loss of libido in committed relationships, loss of libido after having children, wanting sexual freedom despite being in happy marriages, and experiencing firsthand the intimate connection between autonomy and desire. I really appreciate the fact that she — like the movie Monogamish — doesn’t endorse any particular relationship style, and doesn’t share her own, because ultimately it’s up to each person to decide what’s right for them. I appreciate her attempt at leveling the playing field by highlighting the deep hypocrisy that surrounds societal attitudes towards male v. female sexualities. This book is a good companion to Ryan and Jetha’s Sex at Dawn, but goes into greater detail about the effects that different types of agriculture had on gender power dynamics as well as more details about Bonobo sexuality and female aggression. I also appreciated her in-depth look at some positive and sustainable examples of alternative relationship styles. We need more of those. I’m passing this book to my husband now.
• Having just finished the book Sapiens a few weeks ago, I knew that the switch from hunter-gathering to agriculture was “the greatest crime in history,” according to the author. But he did not parse the catastrophic effect by gender; Wednesday Martin does, and you will never think of the word “plough” the same way again. You’ll never think about many things the same way after reading this book. Some of my fellow mid-to-late-middle-aged friends, when hearing or reading about Untrue, say they don’t want to read about infidelity as if the book is endorsing it, which it is not. What the book is advocating for is the closing of the sexual entitlement gap. The scientific research is as entertainingly presented as the cultural observations, and the conclusions derived from both are astonishing.
• If you’ve been a fan of the TED talk stars and bestsellers Chris Ryan (Sex at Dawn) and Esther Perel (Mating in Captivity, The State is Affairs) this is the other puzzle piece you were looking for.
  
  I’ve actually decided to host a book club about Untrue next week and some friends are starting to give me feedback on how the reading is transforming the way they think about their own sexuality and their life choices in general.
  
  I hope you don’t get discouraged by the one star reviews and give this amanzing well-researched brilliantly-written book a try.
  Just keep this in mind “The truth will set you free... but first it might piss you off.” Enjoy!
• Part of a groundswell of new thinking on sex and gender roles. Backed up with as good facts as possible given the limited social sharing in this area(and that’s part of the point of the book. )
  A great read neither prurient nor overly factual.
• I think Wednesday read 50 Shades of Gray and got an idea to write a book.
  Science, a healthy understanding of physiology, spiritual health nor history supports the idea of unbridled eros leading our sexual practices.
  Those that live the longest have monogamous heterosexual realtionships. How did you miss those studies?!
  I already lived thru the sexual revolution and in my opinion it was a failure as it produced nothing to benifit society but only served to gratify ones narcissistic desires! Some half baked science certainly doesn't justify another movement of like kind.
  BTW, young people who have more access to porn and sex then we ever did growing up are anxious, and feel hopeless...thats from real studies and science and should be of much greater concern then our failed and tainted selfish pursuits!
• Great read, top notch writing and world shifting ideas.
• This is a gem of a book. The writing is compelling and intelligent, and the author's own vulnerability shines through. Her conclusions are simultaneously disturbing and exciting, backed by her in-the-trenches personal discoveries as well as her compilations of results from respected researchers. A must read!
• not as good as Primates of park ave but still pretty good.